Victimization vs. Victory

Something unpleasant happens to you and you feel ashamed. But since shame is practically an unbearable emotion, you go numb instead. Over time, as more things happen that cause shame, you shut down, losing touch with your desires.

If you don't know what you want, you can't effectively access your personal power. Without personal power, not only are you numb to your desires, but your boundaries are AWOL. And you're getting absolutely no respect. You are angry. You are ready to scream... or worse.

Been there? Done that? At one time or another, most of us have violated our own intuition and boundaries out of fear, shame and numbness. BUT could it be that this very painful teacher is the doorway to enlightenment?

Found out how the "shame that binds you" (as author Bradshaw would say), can also set you free to name your desires, stand your ground and live your passions, full out, no excuses, no matter what!

If you want to get paid what you're worth, do work that inspires flames of passion in your heart and soul, and be the ripple on the water that changes since shame is practically an unbearable emotion, you go numb instead. Over time, as more things happen that cause shame, you shut down, losing touch with your desires.